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In order to find solutions, actions, and change, we need to know the reasons and why.

Reasons and why can apply to problems and it can apply to self-fulfillment.

To use the compass to find the way, a person needs to know why there is a problem and the reasons. Or, what motivates a person and why?

For example, a person may feel nervous, but in Motivationology, we don’t focus on the emotions or so-called internal barriers, but externally to the situation. What is the external and outside reason for that nervousness? It could be as simple as a presentation, or it could be larger such as survival instinct about dangers around them. However, that is a natural reaction.

We can also focus on internal strengths, which also builds resilience, but we do not enhance or exploit feelings or perceived problems to make a person feel that they are out of control of their environment. We minimize the latter, and externalize.

To continue, say that the person feels constricted or sad due to a horrible situation they are in, or were. What is or was that situation? When we know about the situation, which is the true problem and not the person’s reactions as the false problem, then we can really tackle the issue.

Are people causing them problems? Who is a positive influence and who is a negative influence? Is it society? Is it barriers to goals?

We then look at the problematic situation and delve into opportunities to change it.

Regarding what brings a person self-fulfillment, we can see the reasons and why when we get into the details that they can often explain.

Did that pathway, action, influence, or result make the person feel more impassioned, interested, possibly happier, and better off? Did they get more success – which could include jobs, more wealth, better relationships, friendships, and self-starting? Then that pathway, choice, or influence could be a positive reason.

Let’s enhance those positive reasons and why, then, to build the person up. We’re focusing on strengths.

We should enhance the reasons that make a person better off and fight the reasons which make a person worse off. Never focus on the person as the problem, and people often have inherent experiences. The environment, however, can always be changed.

The “Reasons and Why” Compass

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Once we develop the reasons and why, and pin-point them, then we can use this as a guide to the next steps.

Possible external reasons: society, environment, situation, finances, barriers, relationships, people, and wants.

Always focus on the external reasons. This allows the person to have their own personality and choices. However, barriers may arise that cannot be removed, but we know the reasons and why in order to confront it.

Now we have a compass to guide the way while using a map. What should be the destination?

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